Today’s blog post is difficult to write and very close to my heart. My dad passed away recently, so getting over the difficulty of losing him is at the forefront of my mind. Whenever we have to deal with losing a loved one, we are aware that we have to keep living our lives, but it is not easy. It is important that we don’t rush the grieving process, that we are gentle with ourselves.
My father’s death came not unexpectedly. He had been ill for a while, so we were prepared for what happened. This doesn’t make it any easier though. He won’t be back and that is something that our whole family now has to deal with. And everyone has to do it in their own way.
Dealing with the death of a loved one is a very personal journey. There is no manual, everyone has to go through it as best they can.
Give yourself as long as you need, that’s my main advice. Some people need to talk about it, others would rather keep any details to themselves. There is not right or wrong way, do what feels right for you in the moment.
Allow your feelings of grief and let yourself be vulnerable. Don’t think you have to put on a brave face for everyone else.
Let others be there for you. You don’t have to go through this difficult time on your own. Take friends and family up on offers of help whether that’s offers of a homecooked meal or a chat over coffee. Getting out of the house is probably a good idea, so you can start to heal.
If you know others who are going through dealing with the death of a loved one, be compassionate with them. Always be kind to others, as you don’t know what they’re facing in their life right now.